We all know that sometimes its difficult to be a good mother. A good mother does the right thing for her child, no matter how difficult that thing may be for her. When you first type those words – adopt my baby – into the search engine, or even think them for the first time, you will probably be terrified. It is one thing to do the right thing when you are certain that it is the right thing, but in the beginning it will be hard to imagine having that much clarity over something as important as this.
However, you will have a lot of support although no one can tell you that it will be easy. Among your friends and family, many will understand, and many will not. That is not surprising because you will not always understand either. On a good day, you will be relieved and happy when you think to yourself, I thank God that two loving parents are going to adopt my baby, and on another day you will think, Oh, my God! Two complete strangers are going to adopt my baby! They wont be complete strangers however, because you will be able to choose them, meet them and find out who they are before the decision is made.
The support will come from the adoption agency. You are not in this alone. The agency will be there to help and advise you and make sure that you understand exactly what you are doing. Everyone is making the best decision for your baby and for you. When you give your baby to a loving couple, desperate for a child of their own, the agency will be there to be sure that when you say the words adopt my baby that it is in the best interests of all three parties – you, the baby and the adoptive parents.
People adopt babies because they cannot have one of their own. Their issue may be caused by medical reasons, or sexual reasons, or perhaps because they have not been able to find the partner with whom they want to share their life. All of them just want to give a child a good home. When you say to them, adopt my baby, you can make all their dreams come true. People give up babies for many reasons. Perhaps the birth parent is not yet ready, too young, or has other aspirations at this moment. Perhaps financially it is not the right time for them, or they have their own medical reasons. It is never easy, but you are not alone. All of you want the best thing for the baby. Right now, when the decision is new and you are just starting to think the words, it would probably be better if I found someone to adopt my baby, you have apprehensions about whether or not this is the right thing.